Reality Check: Men Are Much More Driven by Hormones Than Women
Testosterone is the main hormonal game-changer for males. Men typically experience the eight testosterone cycles listed below:
- Rhythmic fluctuations that occur about three to four times per hour.
- Daily changes where testosterone levels are higher in the morning and lower in the afternoon.
- Rhythmic monthly fluctuations that are different for each individual.
- Fluctuations that occur during the year with testosterone levels being the highest in October and the lowest in April.
- Testosterone changes are typically associated with adolescence.
- Fluctuations that are part of the irritable male syndrome (IMS) and occur as a result of stress, loss of self-esteem, and end changes in brain neurochemistry. These fluctuations may happen at any time in a man’s life.
- Decreasing testosterone levels that are associated with andropause or male menopause.
- Moment to moment testosterone responses due to a male’s competitive, sexual and territorial behaviors.
The biggest thing that we can learn from this is that even though women go through a 29 day hormonal, reproductive cycle, men have their own version that happens much more often – every 15 to 20 minutes, PLUS seven additional potential hormonal sub-cycles.
Compared with men’s crazy hormonal potential and swings, the regularity of the female cycle with only one predictable hormonal swing almost seems abnormal!
I once heard a woman presenter talk about men’s hormonal cycles and she said that if your man is not paying attention at a specific point in time, or if you don’t like his response, simply wait for 20 minutes and this will change. At the time, I was skeptical about this statement, but now it seems that this may actually be true!
Understanding this, and realizing that the distractedness, “stress” behavior, sleep disturbance, and irritability that some men go through may be caused by hormonal changes together with the lack of expressive avenues of their hormonal fluctuations, can help you distinguish between a moody angry dude and a man suffering from mild to moderate depression.
As men and women express just about each one of their functions, hormones, and emotions differently, why would we expect that the criteria for depression will be the same for both genders?
Man up (I hate that term) and build some awareness my brothers, and consider taking relevant steps to help yourself, as it might just be that it’s actually you, and not her, that is being hormonal!
We can do better!